Fight for Your Right

It really pisses me off when some quasi-Liberal MPs in a country as rich per capita as Kuwait, announces his disdain about the gender-segregation law by projecting it’s financial implication on the country. Is this the best that he could come up with? Is this the only consequence for such an irresponsible law, that shouldn’t have been passed in the first place?
Where are the social and psychological studies that show it’s real danger on the society, especially now that we have gone through this experience for at least a decade? Where is the data? Where are the comparative studies, concerning education products of the eighties and that of the second millennia? Where are the social implications and its affect on divorce rates between the two periods? And where are the studies that rate Kuwait University before-and-after this law?
Mixing gender in the society is the norm, we all mix in our homes, offices, shopping malls, hospitals, even in our circumambulation around the Ka’ba, the most sacred place for Muslims, but segregation isn’t. And it should not be treated as a norm.
How do we expect a woman and a man to deal with each other in real life, when we did not prepare them to do so, in the first place? And why should anyone allow himself to be our guardian, directing our lives according to his sick beliefs? And on what bases was this law imposed?

University experience is not just another educational level, sought to get a certificate for earning bread. University experience embeds the essence of education on life.

It’s been more than a year since my sons came here to study in the States, and up to now; they both find it difficult to deal with their female college mates. And whoever knows my children, know that mixing with other girls is not something new to them, especially that I have always encouraged that in our social settings. But the environment and their previous segregated schools had such an impact on them that it would take a long time for them to adjust. My older son is really suffering from this. He is still very shy to deal with girls. He tells me that he tries as much as he can to avoid them, but he’s not happy with himself.
Schools, in general, should not be segregated. But I do understand the concerns of the conservative families, especially for their teenage children. But parents should have a choice. Private mixed-schools should not be tampered and controlled by theologians.

For years, I worked for a government agency that deals with construction enterprise. Every year I got a list of women engineer graduates from Kuwait University, with the highest degrees, in all engineering fields. Most of those women, when appointed, refuse to go to sites that are predominated by men. And it used to baffle me; why did they pick such a profession, if they can’t work in a predominated male environment? And I know some great women engineers that ended up as science teachers, because they could not cope with mixed environment, although most did office work and did not have to go to sites.
Segregating gender doesn’t guarantee virtue in a society, but it sure can produce sick minds, and dysfunctional societies.

Announcement:

The Kuwaiti Social and Cultural Society of Women, located in Khaldiya is preparing a gathering to contest this unjust law on Tuesday, Feb.12th, at 6 PM.

It is everyone’s duty to join and fight for their rights. This issue does not only concern University students and their patents. Nor only women. It is the responsibility of every citizen and also every expatriate (Arabs and none-Arabs), not just to attend, but also to fight. Conservatives had reached the root of our public education and ruined it, don’t let the same fate reach private schools. And don’t wait for a miracle to happen. Make it happen.
At this time, I really wish I was in Kuwait

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14 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Bombay Bombshell
    Feb 09, 2008 @ 13:08:33

    I’ll be there for sure at 6 sharp enshallah.
    Lets fight for our rights together.

    What pisses me off is all those people who are against segregation but choose not to show to these events, its those people whom we really need to be there, to show them enna e7na mo aqaliya.

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  2. AyyA
    Feb 09, 2008 @ 13:23:39

    Bombay
    These people are cowards. And I blame them for the mess we are in right now. If they have spoken before, we wouldn’t have had to fight for something that is our right in the first place, this law is not even in accordance with our constitution.
    You go girl, and gather the most that you can. This issue should not be taken lightly. Everyone has to see the real image of Kuwait. The image that has been distorted for too long, enough is enough.

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  3. kila_ma6goog
    Feb 09, 2008 @ 13:41:53

    اللي تكسب به

    العب به

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  4. مـعــارضـة
    Feb 10, 2008 @ 01:29:11

    تحترق القلوب، وتدمع العيون… ولا تزال كويتنا تنزف من غزاة التخلّف

    آن الأوان لنهضة “كويتية” صادقة وأصيلة لردع زمن القردة الذين غزوا الكويت الجميلة بثقافتها وفنها ورياضتها وتعليمها واقتصادها وعاداتها وتقاليدها ودينها وشعبها… وريادتها

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  5. soud13
    Feb 10, 2008 @ 07:48:22

    will be there 🙂

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  6. hanan
    Feb 10, 2008 @ 13:20:11

    Al-Duaij’s article in today’s Qabas echoes what you’re writing here. Both you and Duaij make valid arguments calling for a more educated and learned analysis of segregation rather than arguing that it fails or is financially burdensome. However, agreeing with kila ma6gog, if these are the means that we have, aren’t we to use all that is in our power? Even if it’s playing their game their way. Let’s present all these arguments: economy, practicality, etc, if the end result is to make people fight against segregation.

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  7. AyyA
    Feb 11, 2008 @ 00:43:46

    KM
    ادري. و هذا الموجود

    معارضه
    معك علي طول الخط

    سعود
    عني و عنك

    Hanoona
    Missed you girl.
    I do understand that, I’m just degusted that up to now, no one cared to delegate this work to some experts in the field, so that the argument would have been based on solid grounds. Wishy-washy attitudes are only meant as a winning card in the next election, and I’m sick of that. But regardless, they started it and we should stampede.

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  8. Angelo
    Feb 11, 2008 @ 03:32:59

    Same here. I really wish I was in Kuwait right now to show my support.

    People shouldn’t look at this problem as a “segregation issue” only, but also as the danger grip those Islamic MPs possess, and their desire to turn Kuwait to another Saudi Arabia. The hypocrisy is that the sons and daughters of those MPs study in the most prestigious schools in USA and UK; environments that highly encourage co-education and mix of gender.

    I really hope Kuwait wakes up in the next elections and starts to see who is right and who is wrong instead of blind voting.

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  9. AyyA
    Feb 11, 2008 @ 03:46:08

    Angelo
    I accidentally ran into one of our conservative MP’s while I was studying in the states and visiting friends in another state in the late seventies. It was late at night when he showed up and he was drunk and hung to a Canadian girl almost double his height. I do not want to mention his name because these things I consider personal. Besides, that was long ago and I only had sporadic business contacts with him later.
    Talking about hypocrisy, ha?

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  10. harmonie22
    Feb 13, 2008 @ 09:23:38

    Great post. I call it zeg-regation 🙂

    Yeah I really wish I was in Kuwait right now too, for this. Reminds me of the good old days when we used to protest for the right to vote.

    If we really want to talk about what the law says, it doesn’t just apply to schools and universities but even training institutions, but who’s counting? What they don’t get is that the more you squeeze, the more people explode. Natural interaction becomes an extreme expression and men/women will forget how to just be normal with each other. It’s beyond stupid.

    Come to think of it, I’m really glad i’m not in Kuwait right now; my blood pressure went up just writing this comment.

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  11. Angelo
    Feb 14, 2008 @ 06:54:01

    Ayya, I swear, those people you mentioned still exist abroad and I see them every once in awhile. The hypocrisy also extends to their facebook account; they describe their political views “very liberal”, yet they are the most narrow-minded people ever. Ah the irony…

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  12. The Expert
    Feb 14, 2008 @ 15:31:07

    في الواقع …. قانون منع الاختلاط باطل دستوريا ….. بس وين الواقع

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  13. Dotsson
    Feb 17, 2008 @ 21:16:21

    I think me and you should elope and have an affair.

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  14. AyyA
    Feb 23, 2008 @ 10:18:57

    Harmo
    zeg-regation?
    LOL, I didn’t see that coming 🙂
    And well-said dear

    Angelo
    I believe that they should be exposed. And this movement, be it a small step, but it’s a step toward the right direction. I thought I’d never see the day when Kuwaitis fight for their personal rights. More actions like this is needed to stop those hypocrites from assuming guardianship over people.

    The Expert
    My long missed friend, how’ve you been?
    And as for the law not being constitutional, I think that Alrashid is fighting it through this deficiency. I wish them luck, this could be a first step towards acquiring all our personal rights that were stolen from us in the past.

    Dotsi
    I already fled, it’s your turn now. And I believe that we already started our affair, mentally that is 😉

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