What is your role as a true friend?

A question that imposed itself on a conversation last night as I hung out with some friends:

If you know that your best friend’s wife/husband is cheating on him/her; would you tell him/her? And why?

8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. shosho
    Jun 17, 2005 @ 17:52:00


    Probably she already knows, and in telling her I will embarrass both of us.

    Probably she doesn’t know, and soon someone will tell her, why should it be me?


  2. Purgatory
    Jun 17, 2005 @ 20:15:00

    You hang around Sheba-ian people, get out of that circle, its dangerous


  3. DJ
    Jun 17, 2005 @ 22:41:00

    Very difficult question. I would tell her, because I would expect her to do the same for me. Having said that, I think that because we both know the other would want to be told if the shoe was on the other foot makes the decision easier. Now, having said that,the approach would be the hardest part!!


  4. Shopaholic Q8eya
    Jun 18, 2005 @ 01:08:00

    This is a tough one. I believe it all depends on the person. If my friend was the kind of a girl who is blindly in love and will never leave him, then I will probably not tell her for the sake of our friendship. But, if she was someone like me, I would so tell her.


  5. bananazone
    Jun 18, 2005 @ 05:16:00

    i agree with shop, bas i also feel that everyone deserves to know what’s really going on, especially from someone they trust, if it’s a close friend of mine, there’s no question about it, i would tell them, especially if i have the proof.


  6. mishu1984
    Jun 18, 2005 @ 06:37:00

    i wouldnt tell them, somethings are better left unsaid, yet they should know, but not from me. and if asked if i knew, id lie just to save my own skin 😀

    just kidding. no i wouldnt tell them, but id take them to a place where they can catch them in the act 😉


  7. Jewaira
    Jun 18, 2005 @ 14:20:00

    It would depend on the situation. If the cheating spouse was horrible and making my friend’s life miserable, then I would not hesitate to present the facts very gently.

    But if they have a reasonably good relationship from what I know, I would never ever reveal what I knew.

    Sometimes it is better to leave things unsaid; what he/she doesn’t know won’t hurt him/her and the damage of knowing would affect him/her for life.


  8. AyyA
    Jun 18, 2005 @ 18:44:00

    Thank you all very much for your input, and as you see from the comments that not all agree on this subject, it is very difficult indeed, and as for me, I would go by not saying a word simply because I do not want to hurt my friend and also because I do not want to blame myself for indirectly causing any misfortune to him/her, and as many of you said, some things are better left unsaid. But nevertheless; I would still be hurt for not telling her, and that’s not easy.


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