Not a “Women’s Only” Cry

It is sad how some women are kept in the dark for ages. They think that women’s participation in political issues is separated from home. They think that politics is men’s business and women’s place is her home. While in fact; the very essence of that activity is targeted to reform starting and ending at home. When Iraq invaded our country; did only men suffer from this? And were they the only ones who defended our country? Didn’t we all; men and women take a part, each with his/ her own capability, and participated in the state’s affair during invasion? How come we did not say it’s men’s business then?
The point I’m trying to emphasize here is that state’s affair is everyone’s affair; men and women.

A woman’s participation in dealings of the country is power. Laws would be issued to protect different aspects of her life and that of her family, as well as that of her future grandchildren; which leads us back to home; the very place that we claim to be where we should belong.

Think of it as your own home; would you prefer to have “ si sayid” controlling your household and applying his rules even if it meant fully providing for your materialistic needs? Applying a one sided ideology on you and your children, even if that meant strict orders that your children” as well as might you yourself” publicly obey and discretely disobey? Or would you be more comfortable with an understanding partner who would discuss matters with you and respect your opinion to come up with a better plan in running your household?

It’s the same thing in running state’s affair. This power that we women have gained would make “si sayed” think twice before he utters his ideologies, let alone enforce them on us. You only have to broaden your mind so can clearly see it. It’s not a gender fight for power as some might try to convince you; it’s more like a team work.

And even if no woman gained a seat in the parliament; your vote is power. You have to be wise in giving it to the right channels that aim for reform. Newspapers and lectures are a good starting point for your personal awareness of the right representatives, but be careful not to be brainwashed and only take what sounds logical to you. And when you are in doubt; don’t give your vote. It’s better to do that than giving it to people who would eventually destroy you and your country.

And although I believe that women’s presence in the parliament is essential, but we should not blindly support each and every woman running for the parliament; our views should not be biased to a gender, rather to the person who can convince us that he/she is aiming for reform. So long that our vote counts, we will be present in the parliament even if it lacked a female.

I have also noticed that many over-enthusiastic women, mainly on blogs, shouting for an immediate participation and wondered why we should wait until 2007, and I’m assuming that they have preferred the dissolution of the current parliament for speedier election. But in my opinion; this period is essential at least for developing the political awareness and for educating ourselves in this area. Don’t forget that we have been kept at dark for ages and most of us still can’t weigh the grave responsibility this entails. So the two years is a healthy transition period which I believe that is needed.

Good luck ladies and don’t disappoint our fellow men supporters who have lots of faith in us. And thank you brother for supporting me along the way.

9 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Ms.Baker
    May 26, 2005 @ 20:05:00

    ” Don’t forget that we have been kept at dark for ages and most of us still can’t weigh the grave responsibility this entails. So the two years is a healthy transition period which I believe that is needed.”

    Indeed dear Ruby, your enlightened words of wisdom should be taken under careful consideration by all Kuwaiti women. I agree with you totally. This is new uncharted territory for us all, and there are likely many pitfalls ahead. It is a time for rational, clear-headed, patient and calm thinking. One step at a time, otherwise it will become a mess. And I dont want to give those who badly wanted this to fail the satisfaction. We need to all get used to the idea and process of voting. Long term strategies and preparation must be made.

    Moo li3ba il- mouthoo3.


  2. shosho
    May 26, 2005 @ 23:24:00

    I tried to write my comment here, but it was too long. You may check it here. It partially addresses some points you have raised, but it is generally tailored to the blogosphere readership.

    I hope you do not find it upsetting, but I had to vent, and you served -unknowingly- as the catalyst.


  3. shosho
    May 26, 2005 @ 23:28:00

    I just reread my post – allah yanni garga…


  4. AyyA
    May 27, 2005 @ 03:33:00

    Thanks sweetheart for the compliment, as I mentioned before this issue should be the top of our priority, it is so sensitive and having different opinion in the subject would only increase our awareness, hope to see you posting on that more often knowing you as a prominent writer with a “not to be taken lightly” traffic. 😉

    No dear I am far from offended, on the contrary, I like the debates on this matter and I really appreciate your concern, and I advise all my visitors to check your blog, it’s a mind storming debate that I think we should have more often, thanks dear 🙂


  5. ولاّدة
    May 28, 2005 @ 14:47:00

    كالعادة أعجبت برأيك وبطريقة عرضك له

    نعم إن البيت هو الوطن المصغر وتكفى نظرة لبيت بدون إمرأة بغض النظر عن ثقافتها وإتجاهها لتعرف الإضافة التي ممكن أن تقدمها المرأة أي إمرأة

    التحضير كما تفضلتي مهم …ولعل من المهم تكوين مجموعات عمل نسائية لكل منطقة وليس المهم هو اختيار نائبة غمرأة ..عن نفسي سأختار الأصلح من وجهة نظري رجلاً كان أم إمرأة



  6. AyyA
    May 28, 2005 @ 21:59:00

    Thanks Wallada dear for your insight and the brilliant idea of having group women per voting area, but I wonder how practical that would be? Never occurred to me really, interesting indeed.
    I think the social and cultural society of women is a good starting place and I will definitely deliver the message.
    There you go girl, women like you make me proud to be a Kuwaiti women.


  7. Jewaira
    May 29, 2005 @ 07:44:00

    Good points Ruby and the transition period is very necessary.


  8. AyyA
    May 29, 2005 @ 13:56:00

    Glad to know that you share the concern dear


  9. mona
    Nov 21, 2007 @ 09:38:18

    i want some evedince that provide that men should cry



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